Overview

As soon as you start to think about leaving, you need to take extra care to stay safe. For example, if you printed out this information, it's safer to keep it in the hands of a trusted friend than at home.

The more prepared and supported you are, the safer leaving can be.

Here are some tips that may be helpful. Keep in mind that this information is not official legal advice.

• Learn about your rights and get support from free resources.
  • The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) is a free hotline that's available 24 hours every day in English and other languages.
  • The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence's website at ncadv.org/resources can help you find shelter and legal support.
  • The website www.myplanapp.org has a free app to help you make a plan.
  • Your local shelter for domestic abuse victims can help answer your questions. They also can help you deal with legal issues and find temporary housing.
• Think about getting a protection order (sometimes called a restraining order).
  • Talk to the police or a hotline or shelter advocate about whether this might be a good idea for you.
  • If you get a protection order, always keep a copy with you. Give copies of it and a photo of your partner to your children's school and your workplace. (Front desk or security employees can use it to prevent your partner from entering.)
• Collect evidence.

  For example, take pictures of bruises or broken objects. And take screen shots of threatening texts or missed calls.

• Make a packing list.

  Include medicines and important documents (for you, your kids, and your pets). After you pack, leave the bag at work or with someone you trust.

• Be ready to call for help—quickly.
  • Learn ways to call 911 fast. Some phones have a built-in way to do this. Others can be programmed.
  • Memorize phone numbers of trusted contacts and the local shelter (in case your partner takes your phone).
• Know how you'll leave, and practice your plan.
  • Plan to leave when your partner doesn't expect it.
  • Consider calling the police to be with you when you leave.
• Know where you'll go.
  • If you plan to go to a friend's, also plan where you'll go in an emergency, such as a shelter for domestic abuse victims.
  • Think about what you'll do if your partner confronts you.
• Tell people who can help.
  • For example, your boss may be able to let you make changes to your work schedule.
  • Your neighbors may be willing to call 911 if they hear or see anything that worries them.
• Prepare the kids.
  • Discuss safe places they can go, both outside and inside the home.
  • Have them memorize emergency contacts.
• Make plans for pets.

  The website safeplaceforpets.org can help you find a place for your pet.